In life it is imperative we realise the purity and integral importance of our relational nature. When observing the phenomena of relationships and how this dynamic has the power to influence the quality of our lives we must question our actions on a day to day basis. What this leads to is an examination of self and an examination of our relationships. This examination and query has the wonderful potential to manifest itself in to personal and interpersonal growth leaving very little room for internalised fears, doubts and the inability to function peacefully in a world full of busyness and clutter. When we make reference to our relationships we are including the following:
-Our Relationship with ourselves – how we feel about ourselves, how we treat ourselves, how we perceive ourselves).
-Our relationships with other people – this includes people from all areas of our lives; family, friends, fellow colleagues, etc.
-Our relationships to objects such as; food, the environment, our personal inanimate belongings and so fourth.
-Our relationship to concepts, ideologies, belief systems and philosophies – how do we react to certain circumstances, who do we feel about particular vantage pints that may conflict with our own?
So what does can this all mean to us as people who clearly engage in all of the above at some level, at some time within our lives? It means we need to make aware what previous has perhaps been hidden by our inability to focus. We need to perhaps resift and re-prioritise our existence, function and understanding of this world around and within us. Below will be found seven principles and daily practices of living for transforming the way in which we understand the nature/nurture of relationships and the integral aspect of their play within our Universe.
1. Examination of our circumstances leads to greater clarity of self. Knowing self has then the potential to create a realness about oneself. This ultimately leads to the ability to be ‘a better you’ for yourself and others. The paths to self examination are many and include: educating yourself through literature or surrounding yourself with people who tread a similar path to yours.
2. Once per day for at least 20-30 mins (if not up to an hour) allow yourself to be still and peaceful both within and without. Find a quiet spot, whether it be in your room, the beach, a mountain top or the forrest. Find a space that allows you to be quiet and comfortable. Here you will basically meditate, reflect and just be with yourself, here you will relinquish scattered thought, you simply be. Worries are non existent and only you matter. This time for you is sacred, this time for you is to develop yourself and create peacefulness. Over time this will compound and be effective in your dealings with others. Those around you will also feed from your powerfully peaceful and quiet nature. It is through stillness that truth is revealed in fullness.
3. Once per day walk up to a complete stranger and ask them the following questions: Before you do this introduce yourself and asks them their name, do not over think who you should approach, simply follow your initial thoughts or feelings and basically go with the flow…
1. What is the one thing you love about life?
2. What are the greatest memories of your life?
3. Who or what do you love the most?
4. If you could change anything about the life you perceive, what would it be and why have you not changed this as yet?
This process will give you confidence in dealing and interacting with people, it will create honesty amongst you and those you interact with (honesty leads to truth and as we know inwardly the truth always promotes freedom) and you will learn to give to others and connect deeply with total strangers. Empathy is the greatest tool humanity posses, unfortunately due to the cultural clutter that surrounds us our empathetic mechanisms are blocked. This is a tremendous hindrance to the beauty we posses yet is not expressed in full. Empathy is a muscle needing to be trained and needing to be worked. This will assist in strengthening humanity’s greatest weapon against the infliction of pain on others.
4. Perform at least one selfless act per day. This will encourage you to connect to yourself and the giving nature of self. This will also show others that people really do care and that there is always hope. Help a stranger, help your daughter, help your father or friend. Act in a way that has tremendous meaning for the other.
5. Connect specifically to nature in any way you can. It is imperative we recognise the ecological connectedness of our entire planet, including all of its inhabitants. When we can do this with an effortless adjustment in belief and value system we actually connect to our Earth which sustains our lives. We then develop a natural respect for the connectedness of life, we begin to value our own existence and the importance of those around us. We move from a selfish state of being to a selfless state of being. Refer to the Gaia principle for a deeper understanding of this concept.
6. At least once per day engage in activity that promotes healthy nutrition, whether you make a change to your eating habits that promote health, vitality and physiological wellbeing or you read a book that educates you on healthy eating principles. A healthy body provides clarity for the function of a healthy mind.
7. At least once per day move with meaning and move with intent! This means exercise and be physically active. There are many ways to partake in physical activity and they include (but are definitely not limited to) the following:
You get the picture. The point being is move! Why though? This principle of existence links in with principle 6 - A healthy body provides clarity for the function of a healthy mind. Not only are you promote your own health but you are setting an example for others. This is crucial to your interpersonal relationships, through hardships it is often passable when we realise that there are others to assist us. Although the journey is ultimately our own, we have tools along the way to assist us in completion. These tools come in the form of our interpersonal communications and the quality of these relationships.
Part of growing, developing, giving and receiving is a combination of understanding both the world within and the world outside of ourselves. Working on developing our own capacities is important as is developing the relationships with those and that around us. It functions in unison and is cyclical in nature. Recognising the importance of relationships and the integrity of these relationships is a gateway to a better world. Gone are the days where “its every person form themselves”. We live in a world where without collaboration we cause harm and do not promote goodness. Togetherness is key to humanity’s success! SS.